I have read many tidbits and quotes about how mothering is like gardening. Gentle, tender loving care and nurturing….. blah, blah, blah.
I am not a “hard core” gardener. I love plants, bushes, etc. I love to plant, design, create and enjoy my yard. I do NOT like finiky or difficult plants. I actually do not know of many difficult ones except indoor plants. I know I am going to lose a lot of you serious, ‘hard core’ gardeners now… I NEED the sun and the rain to take care of my plants. I do not baby or fertilize anything in my garden. I plant appropriately and let it grow. (hence why I do not do well with indoor plants)
I just returned from a mini vacation with my kids. I had been looking forward to getting away to do nothing and enjoy my kids. I have a 7th grader who wasn’t able to bring either of his 2 best friends, but wouldn’t invite anyone else. I also have a 4th grader who did bring her best friend. It was odd and a new experience for me as a mother. (I remember my parents complaining about my moodiness in junior high and now I have been on the receiving end.) He insisted sitting and doing nothing instead of joining in the fun, multiple times. He stated he wanted to go home a few times. Other times he would join in and actually enjoy himself. We (husband & I) did well at not harassing him and let him sit and “pout”. His attitude was a downer for us and even affected my daughter and her friend. I am trying to remember the foolish thoughts I had at that age and am trying to teach and lead my son- to wisdom. We’ll see!
Gardening requires some physical work- but basically I hate to sit still or not get something accomplished. So I enjoy this ‘work’. Parenting is work, but stressful work. Gardening is easy for me and I can be quite laid back about it. This is obviously not a good choice of action for parenting. I have read and talked with other mothers about parenting. But since each child has their own mix of personality and a mother with her own personality – leads to more of the learn as you go.
How I look forward to doing some gardening… a wonderful stress reliever!
PS I hope to post something a bit more interesting for you tomorrow – like about my Begonias that I haven’t killed! ( I need to–to make up for this downer!)
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